Find the place where you belong.

When I say "Find the place where you belong", I mean this in a few different ways:
*Literally finding a place where you belong, such as a certain city or country.
*A place of work/Education.
*A group of friends.
*A place where you feel comfortable, for example, A stage.
*Or even finding the right place for yourself in regards to the right state of mind and being in a good place mentally.

Below are some ways I have personally found where I belong.

Back in my younger years when I was slightly alternative, I visited the wonderful, quirky Camden.
The art, shops and atmosphere was exactly what I needed to rejuvenate my young mind.
With my converse and skinny jeans I fit right in.
Back then it was my perfect and ideal place!

A few years had passed and I'd changed slightly.
My anxiety had turned into extreme anxiety and I found it harder to do things.
My belonging to Birmingham had been weakening by the day and I felt an emptiness inside.
So for my birthday I decided to visit Brighton.
I'd heard so much about it and was so set that I'd move there when I was older; but I had to see it for myself!
What can I say? It was breathtaking. Well, I felt as though I could actually breathe better!
As soon as I stepped foot out of the car, I took the deepest breath of fresh air and immediately knew how much I loved this place.
I sat on the pebble beach watching over the sea and felt as if all of my anxiety and worries just drifted into the abyss, never to return.
I hadn't felt this at home for years. I knew this was where I belonged.
Ever since, I've been set on returning and one day will hopefully call it my home.

Personally, I believe that being somewhere you feel a belonging to will bring out the best in you; mentally, emotionally and even physically. You may even find your work ethic will increase.
If you are somewhere you love, surrounded by good people, your positivity will reach as high as the stars. My philosophy is, happiness and positivity are the most important things in life. So go find your happy place!

Find the place where you belong.

Smile :)
  L
xxx

Today, I will be someone else my friend!

So yes, a very weird title on this blog!

It was actually inspired by my friend Ellen.
This morning Ellen walked into the classroom which our Music Industry was being held in.
I greeted her and said how lovely her hair looked, as I haven't yet seen it tied back since she got her gorgeous bangs (Full fringe) put in.
She replied to me with that look. You know the one that your friend gives you when you compliment them and they just look as if to say "Ha, funny. No" - Yes that look!
She then followed this look with "Today I'm Dean Winchester.I'm not feeling like being myself so I thought I would be someone else".
For some reason I was shocked and so amazed by what she said! Hence the reason why you are reading this post!

I mean. It makes so much sense!
It's just like when you are a beginner performer, you like to 'be' someone else whilst performing so that you can be more confident. My other best friend Emma told me a similar story about when she goes onto stage, as she is an actress. Her teacher once told her that someone they knew pretended on stage that they were 'Beyonce' so that they could hide all the nervousness and rock their performance.
The thing is, I guess I love that we have that control. It's truly incredible that when we are feeling down in the dumps and really self conscious or we lack confidence, we can put our worries aside by being someone else for the time being.

I had my first performance the other day with my band and I decided to be someone else on stage. I decided to think and act as if I were 'Hayley Williams' (Vocalist of the band Paramore). She is one of my inspirations along with many more, but today I felt the need to put my nervous state into a new state of mind.

I guess these big stars that we see in our favourite movies or favourite bands have their own way of showing confidence. Maybe they put themselves into their role models shoes when they aren't feeling good. Maybe that's why they always seem great to us.
Maybe you should give it a go when you aren't feeling up for the day being nervous and anxious. Put yourself into someone else's shoes and see how it is; There's no harm in trying, Ay! and if it works just remember you have the power to be someone else whenever you need to be, and eventually I guess you will just gradually become confident with being yourself and that shield you wore from being another person will actually just become a permanent part of you.

Smile :)
  L
xxx

Why should we force ourselves to do things we don't want to do?

So. First of all. Apologies for not updating my blog for a while.
I've been faced with some negativity that has drained me, Plus starting back at college.

So, this brings me onto the question I often bring up.
 'Why should we force ourselves to do things we don't want to do?'.
This question is something really important to me, therefore I decided to write about it!

The thing is, the way to be happy is to listen to yourself and follow your instincts.
If you don't want to go to a party, or you don't want to go out, then listen to what you really want and go with it. It is guaranteed the outcome will be better than if you do something you don't want to do.
For example, recently I've encountered some negativity which has caused me to feel very ill and drained; this negativity was actually caused through college and pressure.
Last Friday I decided I wasn't going to go into college as I needed to just take some time to be alone and think and take a mental breather. Now don't get me wrong, most teens don't want to go into school and some people 'cant be bothered' to go to college or work. I'm not saying it's a good thing to not go in when you feel you cant be bothered, but you should never force yourself to do something you really do not want to do. You should always try your best to get into work/ School/ College to save yourself from having to catch up or lowering attendance, however you and your health come first remember that!

Forcing yourself could cause illness, anxiety and all sorts of things. This is why it is very important to listen to yourself and your feelings.
I have felt unable to update my blog therefore I haven't forced myself to do it.
Now that I have given myself time to relax and think, I am now able to carry on normally.

So just remember. Never force yourself to do something you do not want to do.
Listen to yourself.
It's the key to feeling happy!

Smile :)
  L
xxx

Celebration of the New Year!

So of course, everyone celebrates on New years Eve by going to the pub or having a house party etc. And yes, every year, that's pretty much what i have been doing.
I've spent every year either over at the pub my mom worked at or at my house with loads of friends of mine, my brothers and my moms for New Year's Eve.

This year is very different. Christmas was different and so is my celebration of the New year. Christmas was extremely quiet and relaxed; We did so little yet it was so lovely. The same goes for this new years eve, I have made the decision to do nothing really. Yes I was invited to a party in a hall by my friend, but I said no to going. My friends all asked if i was having a house party, and I said no.
Not at all in a cruel way; In the way that doing my own thing seems best right now.
  Relaxing and chilling out, laughing, smiling and not having to please or entertain anyone.
Nearly every party I have been to, there has been an argument between people, a few people who have had a few too many drinks!  Or just something that happens which I have ended up worrying about.
 This year i want to have no worry in the world; Maybe i will read, or watch a film, and play some board games with my family, and I will have no worries with any of my friends being high on emotions. Plus the best thing about no house parties is (Of course) that you don't have to clean up all the mess the morning after!

So this post is just a very small one of mine.
Since It's New Years Eve today, I thought I would share about how I have decided to celebrate.

So remember. Don't feel like you have to celebrate in a certain way because everyone else around the world is. Do what you feel is going to make you happiest; Remember it's fine to be on your own. You don't have to go to a huge party to have a good time.

Have a fantastic New Years Eve.
Look towards making the New Year exactly how you want it!

Smile :)
  L
xxx